Individual Author Record
Name: Thomas S Greenspon PhDPen Name: None Genre: Non-Fiction Born: Sites:
Illinois ConnectionDr. Greenspon earned his Ph. D. in psychology from the University of Illinois.
Biographical and Professional InformationThomas S. Greenspon, Ph.D., is a psychologist, marriage and family therapist, author, and lecturer in private practice in Minneapolis with his wife, Barbara. His practice has included extensive work with gifted and talented individuals and families. In addition to professional articles on the self experience of giftedness, and on intimacy, sexuality, and couple therapy, Tom has authored two popular books on understanding and overcoming perfectionism. He teaches the course, “Couple Therapy: A Contemporary Psychoanalytic Sensibility,” at the Minnesota Institute for Contemporary Psychotherapy and Psychoanalysis
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Freeing Our Families From Perfectionism
ISBN: 1575421038 Free Spirit Publishing. 2001
Perfectionism is not about doing our best. It’s not about the struggle for excellence, or the healthy striving for high goals.
Perfectionism is about believing that if we can just do something perfectly, other people will love and accept us—and if we can’t, we’ll never be good enough.
Perfectionism is a burden that takes a heavy toll. Personal relationships are strained. Intimacy is elusive. Work seems overwhelming. Creativity slows to a trickle. Physical exhaustion is common. Perfectionism is painful and debilitating—a no-win situation.
As parents, we influence our children’s emotional development. The bad news is, our own attitudes about love, acceptance, success, and failure can create an environment that promotes perfectionism.
The good news is, we can make positive changes that will enrich our children’s lives—and our own.
In this groundbreaking book, Tom Greenspon explains perfectionism, where it comes from (including influences outside the family), and what to do about it. He describes a healing process for transforming perfectionism into healthy living practices and self-acceptance.
If you think your child may be a perfectionist—if you’ve ever wondered if you’re a perfectionist—this book is for you.
What to Do When Good Enough Isn't Good Enough: The Real Deal on Perfectionism: A Guide for Kids
ISBN: 1575422344 Free Spirit Publishing. 2007
Perfectionism may seem like a worthy goal, but it’s actually a burden. When you believe you must be perfect, you live in constant fear of making mistakes. Most children don’t know what perfectionism is, yet many suffer from it. Nothing they do is ever good enough. School assignments are hard to start or hand in. Relationships are challenging, and self-esteem is low. Written to and for ages 9–13, this book helps kids understand how perfectionism hurts them and how to free themselves. Includes true-to-life vignettes, exercises, and a note to grown-ups.
Moving Past Perfect: How Perfectionism May Be Holding Back Your Kids (and You!) and What You Can Do About It
ISBN: 1575423871 Free Spirit Publishing. 2012
Perfectionism is not about doing our best. It’s not about the struggle for excellence or the healthy striving for high goals. Perfectionism is about believing that if we can just do something perfectly, other people will love and accept us—and if we can’t, we’ll never be good enough. That belief is a burden that can negatively affect all areas of a person’s life. Fortunately, parents who recognize perfectionistic patterns in themselves, in their kids, or in their families as a whole can make positive changes that will enrich their children’s lives and their own. In this positive, practical book (retitled and updated edition), psychologist Tom Greenspon explains perfectionism, where it comes from, and what parents can do about it. He describes a healing process for transforming perfectionism into healthy living practices and self-acceptance. Parents who want to help their kids move past perfectionism and live happier, healthier lives in which they’re free to make mistakes, to learn, and to grow will benefit from this book. In addition, parents who struggle with their own perfectionism—and whose perfectionism takes a toll on the family—will find help for themselves within these pages.